In those initial periods of development, we didn’t have the sense of understanding how were we humiliated mentally by certain teachers, but actually we named such behavior as mean or partial. On the other hand, parents had taken such behaviors as harmless and for our good. However, to develop the qualities of an effective teacher, a teacher first has to be a good communicator. A teacher must be aware of children’s personalities and abilities, which facilitate healthy development for the children.
When talking about communication, there are a lot of examples that show how communication can impact the student-teacher relationship. A teacher who makes fun of students, criticizes them, or shows lack of empathy towards them can never nurture a child's childhood. Instead of boosting the self-esteem of children, he can demotivate them and restrict their development to a certain level. Children start avoiding school, showing temper tantrums, making excuses, and criticizing themselves as a consequence of such teachers.
Usually we ignore many reactions of teachers, such as yelling, shouting, and criticizing children, as it creates a dilemma. Stories of our childhood also include some memories where teachers used to call out names or yell at us, which was verbal abuse, but neither our parents nor we were guided. We have heard teachers use phrases or words like dumb, stupid, retarded, or idiot for slow learners without giving a thought to their shattered self-esteem.
Parents ignore their complaints because they have an unreasonable amount of faith in the teacher's attitude, despite the fact that children frequently complain about teachers who are biased, ignore, manipulate policies, or use inappropriate body language or language. It may cause emotional harm to kids, or perhaps it shows how common emotional abuse is in schools.
There are times when teachers recognize the impropriety of another teacher’s actions but fail to complain so out of sense of loyalty to their colleagues or due to the fear of being shunned. Teachers such action usually encourages other students to belittle that student. They may feel like ‘maybe I am not worthy’, ‘I am a failure’, ‘why do it’s just me who make mistakes’, ‘they are right, I am an idiot’ or ‘I have to be perfect to proof it to my teachers’. Such inner thoughts generally disregard their actual potential and could result into probable chances of disappointment from self, over expectations or least expectations from self, exaggerations of failures, self-criticizing thoughts or unacknowledged achievements, less competitive or creative self.
How could we expect children who are already at their learning age, to understand such demeaning behavior of their teachers and to express it in clear terms? Most of the time, they don’t understand that what is happening to them. They usually report that ‘teacher is mean or partial to them’. A warmer and positive attitude in a relationship is what all teachers need to have to boost self-esteem and confidence among children and to enhance learning in a supportive environment.