Grief


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Grief is a form of emotion that could be overwhelming for the person going through it, it could bring confusion or sadness to one’s life. Normally people feel grief when they have lost a loved one, gone through a break-up, have been diagnosed with a terminal sickness etc. As we know that all individuals are different, the process of grief is also different for individuals. For some, it may last for months and for others maybe a week or so depending upon one’s coping mechanism and the cause of grief. There is no set timeline to get over grief or there is no easy shortcut to not feeling grief. People generally tend to suppress the emotion of grief which increases the duration of grief that is more you would suppress grief, the longer you will stay with the emotion of grief.Grief and loss have a direct propionate relationship that is greater the loss more is the grief. For instance, if a person lost either parent because of death the person would feel more grief and will take much more time to cope with it. Grief can manifest in different ways in people. Some of the common symptoms are loss of energy, loss of appetite, fatigue, pain in body parts without any medical conditions, derealization, confusion, poor memory, guilt, anger, being hostile, sadness, etc.Grief leads to a lot of anger because of the loss one faces, irreversible loss makes people feel helpless which in turn leads to anger. There are a few stages that people go through while processing grief, one cannot skip a stage or there is a flow chart to grief stages. The stages are denial wherein the person denies the happening of an event or refuses to acknowledge the loss. Second stage is anger where the person tries to fight the emotion of loss and people start asking questions like why it happened to them. Third stage is bargaining which helps in building hope. We start negotiating the event and get into the loop of “what ifs”. Fourth stage is depression where the person accepts reality and tries to cope with it. This stage brings intense sadness, the person feels vulnerable and not wanting to move on. Last stage is acceptance where the person acknowledges the event and starts adjusting to life accordingly.Grief can take a long time to process and there is no way to skip it. Seeking therapy, self-care, etc could help in processing grief and coping in a better way. People can support a grieving individual by listening to them, and by not making assumptions about their process. Grief is a difficult process but you are not alone in this, family support always helps to get out of grief.